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21. The Horse Obeys

THE ANALOGY OF THE HORSE and its rider, used to describe the subconscious and conscious mind is my favorite, and one I learned from a fellow coach.

If you will, imagine that your subconscious mind is the horse that moves you from one place to the other, and your conscious mind is the small rider on top of this large animal.

You work as a team, and you are in control by the use of the reins, but once you trust your horse to take you where you want to go, you do not need the reins. The horse learns what you like to do and see, and the path usually becomes a worn-out trail.

The smart people say you barely use your conscious mind, and I do not disagree. Can you imagine what it would be like if, every day, you had to wander about your alarm clock, the bathroom, kitchen cabinets, and cell phone to do repetitive tasks?

Aren’t you glad the horse takes over the first day or so after you drive your car, use your computer, get to work, the grocery store, and the many other things you do?

Isn’t it nice that you can be “asleep at the wheel” most of the time?

You only have to “wake up” or take the reins when something is wrong, new, or something changes. Otherwise, you can trust your subconscious mind to be responsible for getting you through your day.

What you need to know is that the horse may be the vehicle, but you are in control of its behavior.

As small as you are, and even when you think, “I’m born this way”, you still control the reins. You can change any behavior you want to change, even when the horse is stubborn.

If you choose to believe otherwise, you are giving control over to whatever you taught your subconscious mind to think as the “right way” to be and do.

If you can see your mind like a computer with hardware and software that allows it to function, imagine if you will, that it did not come with anti-virus protection.

As a result, it was able to receive data, sound data, and corrupted data, in the form of words, which got sorted into the proper places whereby you could expect certain results.

Can you see that it might take years before you audit the data to see that something might be wrong with the hardware and software?

If you fail to see that your mind might be corrupted, you will have to make something, or someone, or everything, or everyone out there wrong.

As I mentioned earlier, the test for truth is simple. If what you believe is true, it must always be true. And if what you think is true ever fails to be accurate, go back as far as you can remember to find where your “truth” came from. I will give you some examples. Read More...

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The Strategy of Denial

WHEN BAD THINGS HAPPENED in my childhood, I used a strategy I devised from the advice my father gave me. “Just suck it up and move on.” He taught me nothing about what to do with the negative feelings I sucked up, but each time he spoke those words to me, I did my best to do as he said.

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